Chinese Muslim Wedding Traditions

Since China is a very diverse country and the Muslims of China are equally diverse there is no one way to describe the wedding tradition of Chinese Muslims. It is however safe to say that just like other Muslim communities they are a blend of local cultures and Islamic religious requirements just as Arab Muslim wedding traditions are a blend of Arab culture and Islamic requirements, Malaysian wedding traditions are a blend of Malaysian culture and Islamic requirements etc. Here is an excerpt regarding Chinese Muslim weddings from the Muslim Reverts website for people who may be interested in this subject.

Contacts between Muslims and Chinese began very early. Arab merchants traded in silk even before the advent of Islam, and tradition has it that the new religion was brought to their port-city trading colonies by Muslim missionaries in the seventh century.

In 755, a contingent of 4000 soldiers, mostly Muslim Turks, was sent by the Abbasid caliph Abu Jafar al-Mansur to help the Chinese emperor Su Tsung quell a revolt by one of his military commanders, An LuShan. Following the recapture of the imperial capital, Ch’angan (today’s Xian), these soldiers settled in China, married Chinese wives and founded inland Muslim colonies similar to those established by the traders on the coast.

A Chinese Muslim wedding is very complex, but it avoids all superstitions such as the reading of the horoscopes of the betrothed persons. Some ask the Ahund to read the Arabic wedding rite on the wedding day or the day before. If one of the parties is not a Muslim, the Ahund admits that one into Islam one or two days before the wedding so both may be of the same faith. Betrothal money was not taken seriously since it looked like a business transaction. Now it is customary to give clothing or jewelry, or a small amount of money is given and looked upon as only a symbol. Marriage is based on love. This change should be introduced to other Islamic countries as a means of solving the problem of the decrease in marriage due to the heavy betrothal price.

The old type of Chinese wedding ceremony is now out of date except among poor people in the country. According to the old custom the parents of the concerned parties monopolized the whole affair. The new type follows the teaching of Islam and gains the consent of both parties. Islamic wedding customs are rational and at the same time are timeless, for they follow rules laid down more than thirteen hundred years ago. Emphasis on agreement between both parties, especially the consent of the girl, shows the Islamic stress on the rights of men and the protection of the rights of womanhood.

The ceremonies of engagement and marriage are quite similar for Chinese Muslims and non-Muslims except that the Muslims celebrate the event with a religious and a general ceremony, and they do not use old Chinese music or gongs or fire crackers since they consider them to be superstitious. The religious ceremony is held a day before or just preceding the general ceremony. At present Muslims hold the marriage ceremony in the mosque. In modern times Western music has been adopted for marriages since it is not associated with the worship of other gods. Chinese Muslims obey the Civil Law of China by practicing monogamy almost everywhere except in the frontier provinces. There is no Muslim court to take care of divorce, adoption, and inheritance, as in other Muslim countries; all these matters are now handled in the general courts.

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106 responses to “Chinese Muslim Wedding Traditions

  1. Fareed, m’barek, You are welcome

    Navcity, wa’alaikum’as’salam, You are also welcome. Yes Kashgar (Kashi) is a nice place to visit. As China is a very very diverse country you will see many different things in different parts of China. :)

  2. i learned a lot and i think this is beautiful the way they inclued muslim culture and the Chinese culture

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  3. Since China is a very diverse country??? Really? I doubt that for starters!
    Chinese are only interested in money, so if you have money then yes you can find a pretty chinese girl. I suggest a farmer girl are they are very money originated and they do whatever you want.

  4. it was a big relief to know that their is muslims in china because i love china and i am learning the chinese language so when i go there i could marry a beutifull chinese girl.

  5. Assalamu’alaikum, i love china, i have already went there for 7 times from 2006-2009. I met many non muslim china girl at that moment. But I m looking for pretty chineese muslim. There is a girl in there, firstly i dont feel anything with her, but lately i realized im in love with her, but unfortunately i lost contact with her I hope she can find me through the website that i have created for her, with under her name on the domain name. Pray for me, Thanks. Wassalam.

    • Brother… I pray for you…. I love china and visited 3 times in three months. First I went observing the business chance to catch… Than I fall in love with chinese culture… second visit is to meet my chinese girl friend I found in matrimonial website (qiran.com), I propose her upon first meeting, Insya Allah we will be merried on july upon her holiday…. wish you luck brother.. wasssalam..

  6. hello my name is mohammed iam from egypt iam comeing to start my business in guangzhou and iam hamdo lelallah good muslim man pray 5 times in the day and i look for muslim wife can help me in this life and i hope any muslim man can help me to find good muslim wife and if any help plz email me at

    gpc012@gmail.com

  7. Joe posted on April 10, 2009 at 1:51 pm:

    “Chinese are only interested in money, so if you have money then yes you can find a pretty chinese girl. I suggest a farmer girl are they are very money originated and they do whatever you want.”

    You make two positive claims here and I want you to back them up, based upon the zero-hypothesis, the law of the excluded middle and the burden of proof.

    First proof to me that All or some Chinese (people) are only interested in money, with a scientific paper or journal article.
    Second, proof to me how all or some Chinese farmer girls are very money originated and proof that they do whatever you want also from an academic journal or scientific paper.

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    Similarly, Islam is not named after a tribe like “Judaism” after the tribe of Judah and “Hinduism” after the Hindus. The Arabic word “Islam” means the submission or surrender of one’s will to the will of the only true god worthy of worship, “Allah” (known as God “the Father” in Christianity).
    And Mosks are the place where we do our prayers
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  9. Asalaamu alakum I am looking for a chinese muslim to marry my muslim daughter 26 can anyone direct me to the best and safe information Shukran

  10. Assalamu Alaikum~

    Why are there people looking for soulmate here?

    Allah (SWT) knows best for us and patience is a virtue… I think Confucious said that too…. hee~

    “O you who believe! Seek help in patience and As-Salat (the prayer). Truly! Allah is with As-Sabirun (the patient).”
    ( سورة البقرة , Al-Baqara, Chapter #2, Verse #153)

  11. Finding a the right one for your or your soulmate does not have to be just based on religion or race. Yes China is an amazing country and I cannot wait to go there. But I disagree with the comment above that Chinese only care about money

  12. I am lookig for a muslim person in china , shanghai or hong kong to celebrate my marriae with a muslim women ( el fatiha )

  13. I am lookig for a muslim person in china , shanghai or hong kong to celebrate my marriage with a muslim women ( el fatiha or akd zawaj)
    I’ll be very happy if this could be possible in hong kong .
    thanks and best regards

  14. sir i am abdul mubeen.i live in pakistan.i i belong to businessman family in pakistan.i like china and make merriage chi girl.
    0092-345-4389353

  15. thank you very much for the valued subject, it so interested .

    for me, I like China and chinese people

    they are mostly kind and polite from my expereince

    I usually visit china every year twice

    and I’m panning to establish own business and marry Chinese

    woman this year.

    freinds, if any anyone can guide me to Isalmic center or

    mosque, in Donguang Province ( Guanzghou, Fushan,

    Shenzen , etc.) who can perform the Isamic marriage ,

    please, conatc me or send the full addresses or links to my

    email

    akrmhimi@hotmail.com

    thanking your cooperation in Advance

    • Hello Suleyman hoping u will be fine there. me Salman from pakistan fresh MBA doing here job in a multinational company as area sales executive. but i want to merry from china and also want to settle down there. can u help me plz. if really u want to merry then plz u contact me at me cell no. 0092 314 4553886 i will ure responce. thanks a lot . salman akram from pk

  16. Please I am an African muslim living In china.
    Im looking for a Chinese muslim lady aged 28-30 for marriage . my email; wto313@yahoo.com
    mobile; 13867927470

    Only serious ladies should contact !

  17. please I am an African muslim living in China, I’M currently looking for a chinese muslim lady to share happiness with me . I will treat her us my sister /daughter .She must be mature 28-31. serious and not pretendant .

    wto313@yahoo.com // 13867927470

  18. salam everyone….i am a young moroccan muslim girl…i am 24 years old…i am moderate….i am looking for a chinese muslim guy for marriage….good luck inchallah for everyone…my email only for chinese people:

    vp-canard@hotmail.fr

  19. hello, i just want know about chines mulem family s custom about marrage and chines muslem too especially chines guy, bec maybe i will marrage with a chines guy but i dont know any about his custom s marrage
    thank you

  20. salam e kum i m young boy now in these day i m finding the best girl for me . i want to marriage with chinies muslim girl.

  21. hi i am ramiz from india and i am muslim sunni and i serch my real life partner and i am only 21 yrs old u want to see on my profile on orkut my profile name is honey i am in blue shirt and my all family mem in my photo so contact me on my personal num 00919548326397 thx allha hafi

  22. salam wbt
    hello to all muslims in china…
    im interested to know if anybody who posted the comment here about looking for a muslim girl has successfully found one?… im looking for a wife too…seems hard to find a good and educated chinese muslim girl in guangdong province…

  23. Iam a 35years old business man from the Middle East , I do visit china 3 or 4 times every year , and I like china too much also I hope I can find a good muslim girl to marry in china ,
    Kindly advise me how to find a good muslim girl in china specifically Guangzhou
    About my requirements , she should speak english or at least arabic . 21-30 years old , honest and serious.
    contact me on hesham_international at yahoo.com.

  24. Hi everyone Salaam how are you i am really interesting to marriage a Chinese Muslim girl therefore if anyone i s interesting i would appreciate if Conant me in my mail for furtherer communication nowadays i live near china for higher education I hope to find the one who is serious for a real love and life .thank you max90sa@yahoo.com

  25. Hello, i am 50 years old Egyptian muslim, looking for to marry a chinese muslim lady. In case any lady is intrested, please email me.
    Thanks
    Bye

  26. AL SALAM ALAIKOM
    IM MUSLIM FROM IRAQ ANA WE LOVE ALL MUSLIMS IN WORLD
    AN THOPE TO SEE CHINA AND SEE THE MUSLIM IN CHINA

  27. hhiii salam i m an indian muslim age 26 years old not working now a student of ph.D
    Fully islamic paractacing muslim ,i like to marry chainies muslim girl should be religious and five time offering namaz if any one interested kindly wd out haitation
    email me thanks bye allah hafiz ( suniaamar@gmail.com) wd best regards

  28. Lol I am a pretty muslim girl from usa. For once, Im a southern chinese so I dont have wide cheek bones and all. Aw but too bad. I am engaged to an indian muslim, Masha Allah.

    You lot are funny as heck.

  29. as salam o alaikum
    i hope you will be fine and enjoying good health . well as for concern with this post i am looking for a chinese muslim girl to marry with her .

    so feel free to contact me on skype
    my id at skype is imranraza460
    my email is imranraza36@yahoo.com

  30. Salam brothers

    It is not a matrimonial site…
    Hope Allah will give all of you good wife……

    • get lost, nothing doing with humanism to hinduism, humanism are human, please open your mind and dig deep in. Hindu.

  31. I am an Indian Muslim,

    am looking for a Chines woman to marry, Iam a Businessman in Dubai,

    I have grown up kids, my wife is a Cancer pation,

    pls sudgest

    Saeed.

    +97150 1940777

  32. Well, comments from all are respected.CHINESE GIRLS is a beautiful , girls here are from noble families and as Yanaton mentioned, you might hardly find a girl in CHINESE wandering on roads with flowing hair. I would add, due to strong family structures, people have different mentality, they are more towards ego, self respect and they respect other families, this is the general composition of Pakistani people, but as they say, good and bad are everywhere. Bad people are also around and part of the society…whatever, CHINESE girls are not easy to take away, they don’t like to be mixed up for fun, they don’t sleep out or date in western way. they like traditional long term legal relationship and secured family structure. Anyone approaching Chinese or Pakistani girl, they have to meet their families first, then if they are mutually satisfied, the male approaching girl, will send his representatives to the family of the girl, if they are satisfied, a life long relationship will began through marriage.SO if you are interested contanct me my mobile #923138838129 or skybird_03@yahoo.com

  33. Assalamualaikum.. My Name is Muhammad Fitri Al-Aydarus..

    I’m From Singapore. I’m 27 Years old. I’m a full time student in 3D Animation and graduate next year, Insya Allah. I’m searching for honest muslimah who are sincere in knowing in me. There’s no force in Islam for marriage.

    If you are sincere to know me, Please email me at Egyptian_Jonah@Hotmail.com

    Insya Allah, Amin.

  34. Assalam -o-Alaikum I am from Afghanistan man 23 and want to marry a Chines girl age from 19 t0 23 email me at (hikmat.arab@hotmail.com) (0093 789 951945).

  35. Salam, I’m Yasser 24 year old and live here in UNITED STATES OF AMERICA I’m also student at UNC or North Carolina University . I’m looking for Asian Muslim girls accept Chinese,Malaysian,Indonesian,Bangladesh,Nepal,sire lank….. that’s all guys shukran hahah i forgot to tell you the reason .. marry and i promise her great life 4 ever she will never feel boring or sad even one day inshaa allah!! she’ll enjoy with me here in US ..email me plz if y can yassin4433@hotmail.com

  36. Looking for a Chinese Moslem Lady for Life companion & marriage
    I am 62 Years Old and Live in Canada. Age around 37 to 47 Years old , Willing to travel to China.

  37. Salam i am said rehman I am Muslim and single i am 21 year old and handsome I want to marrying with some one Chinese Muslim gril so any one contact me.

  38. My name is Zahid Iqbal, from Pakistan, I always like to marry a chinese girl but I could not found any girl in my life,, with this post I found a place where i can share my feelings… so now I am engaged.. and want a chinese girl to friend of me.. if any chinese girl is interested.. she can get me at my email as under;
    zediprince@yahoo.com

  39. Assalam brother,

    I am sulaiman, I am merried in my country…. but Insya Allah I will merry a chinese muslimah in Lanzhou as second wife and she is agree (I am honest to her) as our intention is love sincerely to be more worthy for more people. Since polygami is not allowed by china goverment, Can I still register I our merriage as in my passport is not written my merriage status? If I can not register in Lanzhou where she live, is there any other province can register our merriage? If not in China, is plygami allowed in Hongkong? please kindly answer…. Jazakallah…

  40. Assalammualaikum…,,, I’m a Chinese Muslim from Singapore. I’ve a Chinese girl friend from Shenzhen China, we seriously intend to get married in May 2012 in Shenzhen but I’ve no idea at all of where she can convert to Muslim & where we can nikah (married in Muslim way) as I also need the imam or khadi to be able to converse in English & Chinese.

  41. i like chaina.
    i have experiance in gems.
    i need to come out from my HARAM life.
    i need a good chainice business man to surport me.

  42. hi i am Rameez Ahmed from india and i am muslim sunni and i serch my real life partner and i am only 21 yrs old plz. help me im looking chanies Girls contact me on my personal num 08291152051 thx allha hafiz

  43. My Name IS Rameez Ahmed im a 22 Year old boys im looking for chinese muslim wife in Guangzhou distric or any place close by, if any one know how to search for a muslim girl in china cud you let me know . contact me this Number +918291152051 email. rameez.sr1989@gmail.com

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  45. I am a muslim married to a Allah fearing woman, I am seeking for a second wife who is to live in the second house which is empty, if you think you could be my second wife and willing to live in Dar es salaam please the door to my heart is wide open, three of my children are grown up and living separete the two are still minor and living with me, I like swimming, TV watching, writing poems, listening to music, Qaswidah, reading books that has to do with Islam, travelling, camping, cooking and many more. Email: zahran_omary@yahoo.com +255 756 776565 you can call or send me sms. Please contact me if you are really looking for a husband

  46. Interested in corresponding with Hui Muslims living in the US or Canada. Wo dong Hanyu / enyu. Interested in hearing your experiences living outside of China.

  47. why the western music? its espected of the imams and sheikhs to stop the musics of both west and traditional. and introduce a resitation of quran instead.
    2. to control the manner in which marrieage, adoptation and inheritance to be manned within?. please increase effort. unless it goes beyond your ability.

  48. my name is sulayman…I do love to marry a Chinese muslim lady
    age..23-30
    my email:romeo_hop@yahoo.com

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